The "Bad Mood" Thread

I pretty much agree with Dame, you should definitely be careful. As a friend, he should want you to be happy, even if he does have feelings for you. If he wanted to escalate to violence over you just going to poker with the guy you like...that's pretty scary in my opinion.

Fortunately I've only ever met very proper guys who don't think that they're entitled to women/affection, but this sounds like a headache. I'm sorry you went through that :\

 

We're sorry

 

I don't think you said anything that sounds like harsh so... your vent is just flawless. Guys being like guys... more like cavemen being like cavemen XDDD
Try to get rid of this guy and have fun with your new acquaintance. Luckies ^.^

 

That's an unfortunate situation @BorisLover that I can relate to somewhat. Jason seems like an asshat who probably needs some perspective, but you're not the right person to give him that, so I guess just being careful and waiting for it to blow over seems to be the right thing to do.

 

It's actually ADHD(I)-related manic/depression. Fortunately, like I said, my cycles are fairly mild and manageable without drugs. There's this amazing new therapy called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It's not like, "Tell me about your mother" bullshit. It's more like having a life coach. "Tell me what you want to do, tell me what's stopping you, and I'll teach you the tools to manage your ADHD."

 

I'm in a perpetual bad mood. I guess I'm just an asshole like that.

 

I know adhd well I had it from a young age got diagnosed year 7 so about 9 10 years old. I got the joy of asperges syndrome with it too

 

Thanks for the advice everyone.
The whole situation is ridiculous. It's more just bad timing.
But I can't believe how immature he's behaving about it all :/

I still want to be friends with him, I honestly don't see why that has to change, and Luke says he's going to have a talk with him when it does cool off somewhat.

Dracoa, that is the exact kind of attitude that I would expect.... Unfortunately not the case.

 

Eh, perspectives can be very different from person to person, and it just may be the way he is. I'm similar to Dracoa in that if I like someone I don't expect them to like me back and instead just try to do my best to make sure they're happy, but my friend Taylor before his current relationship (which has been going on for 3 years with another of my friends, so happy for him) was one of those guys who would only befriend women he had interest in dating and if they didn't feel that way then he would move on. Never really understood why but that's just how he was/is. Of course he didn't do the jealousy, threatening physical violence, asshat thing.

 

He needs to be told that if he thinks that just by knowing you, he is entitled to anything, he can go piss up a rope. He doesn't own you, and he has no right to your feelings. If he can't understand that, he will never be a good friend.
(In case you can't tell, I've dealt with my own Jason before)

 

I just spent ten minutes fighting an enemy in skyrim, and the end-mission cutscene dropped me out of the sky hard enough to kill me, putting me back before the fight.

 

Little brother attempted suicide via trying to slit the artery in his wrist. Crisis Stabilization unit evaluated him and decided not to keep him overnight, but masking shit is like my families specialty so I'm not sure if that was the right decision on their part. We knew he was depressed and he has his first counselor session tomorrow but we didn't know it was this bad. None of this has actually hit me yet so I'm kinda numb to it, but this fucking sucks.

 

*hugs Blinding* Sorry to hear all of that. I've been in a situation somewhat similar to that...but the only advice I can give is try to be there for him. Try not to turn your back on him. Try to be patient. Try not to judge or tell him what is right or wrong. Try to be supportive. I know you said your family isn't very open, but try to talk to each other if you can. Family counseling may be an option. And we will be here to listen as well.

 

School starts back up tomorrow morning, and I am completely dreading it. I feel sick.

 

Oh I know. Outside of counseling we're looking into clubs or groups he might want to join, we want to switch him over to public schooling (he's homeschooled,) but he's really opposed to that because of past experiences, definitely going to see if there's anything he might want to go and see or do so he's pretty much out of the house, because it seems like it's a loneliness issue. And then outside of that just hanging out with him, talking to him about whatever, giving him someone he can vent to, etc.

I mean, it's not like we were ignoring him or his issues, it just wasn't apparent that it was that bad.

 

So upset/frustrated right now. I told my gf I'd take out out on Friday assuming I had enough money, now I'm missing a day of money that isn't my fault and it means I won't be 100% sure if I will have enough for us to just enjoy it and not have to worry too much about what we spend, and shes really taking things too far. "We are still going out and I'm not paying a penny" "You better find money somewhere" etc etc. It's like fuck off. I am not going to put up with that kind of shit. Not from a person who "loves" me. No way. I understand it's disappointing but no need to be a fucking asshole about it. Then she says people only see her as a money tree, I never once thought that of her, I love her for her but if she keeps acting this way it might not be for much longer, really hurt

 

@Kovu
Im shocked that she would say something like that. She isn't being the least bit sympathetic to your financial situation and judging from her statements she is used to having her way. Id rather be single and lonely than deal with that.

 

I feel like garbage for being happy/content when I read about serious emotional/mental/health problems people have here in the thread.

Like, how dare i even crack a smile when so many people I like here are having trouble *burrows under blankets*

 

You are allowed to be happy, just because someone else is having issues, does not mean you are not allowed to be happy either. Do not let others problems get you down. I'm sorry if I added to this.

Happiness is important, yes people will post here when they are feeling down, but they may also not post when something good happens or they are feeling good. A lot of it does balance out, except for the more serious issues.

 

@Blinding: I don't want to assume things, but for whatever reason your family didn't want you brother to be taken to a psychiatric ward, it wouldn't make you a bad family, and not seeing the problems doesn't either. In a hospital, they have more power to monitor him, and can prescribe him medication and observe the results in real-time, not the disjointed views of a one-a-week psychiatrist. I stayed in one for a week myself 4 years ago, and honestly it really helped. You meet people like you, and you realize that your feelings aren't uncommon. He might not want to go, but I really think it would be best for him. I'm sorry if this is offensive or presumptive in any way.

@Kovu: I don't understand your girfriend
If she feels like people treat her like a money tree, then she is probably either overly generous, or a push over about lending money, but if she would be as demanding and rude as she was to you about the situation, it doesn't seem like she is that sort of person. If you clearly stated that money was an issue (which she should already know, dating you), and you never said that she would have to pay if you couldn't, just that you wouldn't be able to do anything. So she is really over-reacting, in an unbecoming way. It just makes her seem very greedy.

@Misskin: Honey, it's totally okay to be okay and happy when other people aren't, it's just the way of the world. There will always be those with problems, and it is important to celebrate your own happiness. Sacrificing your happiness won't help those that don't have it. The best thing you can do is just be understanding and listen when people need it, which is what you're already doing. You deserve to be happy.