Orgasm help

Hey I’m not sure if I’m the only one but I guess I’m here to find out. I’ve toyed for years now and I’ve even managed to hilt a large (unflared) chance and take most of a large sleipnir, but I’ve had difficulties. I’ve never been able to analy orgazm despite many tries, and when over I toy I feel like I need to be right next to a toilet. Even after cleaning out very well I’ll pull out and immediately have what feels like contractions (pretty much dry heaving but with my butt) and I’m wondering if anyone else has ever had an issue like this. Any impute is helpful thanks

 

Hey, a few things about your problem:
-First of, you are not the only one. I personally cant "orgasm" from pure thrusting toys Chance and Sleipnir. For me Knots and Prostate Massagers did the trick. I am writing orgasm in "" because im not sure I have ever actually got one. I am saying that because longtime I was convinced I didnt actually have one, because I imagined it would be very similar to a normal male orgasm. It irritated me that when I was close to one of those orgasms, it would almost feel like I was to ejaculate but then I wouldnt and the feeling in my dick would slowly vanish. It still felt really good tho.
You know how with traditional masturbation there is this "point of no return". What I mean by that is there is this point of stimulation everything just goes automatically. Maybe this dumb little graph I drew helps:



In my experience anal orgasms dont offer that feeling of relievement that normal orgasms do. They still leave me horny and wanting more of them. Thats why you can normally have multiple of them in a short period of time. I am saying all of this because maybe you have had one, but thought "it feels really fucking good but it missed this feeling if relievement so I cant be one".

-Second if you havent had one of those moment I would recommend trying out toys with knots (Rex and Nova are really good) if you havent already. The feeling of a knot popping into you is very different from just taking a big toy. This feeling alone can make orgasm sometimes. Alternatively I would recommend a prostate massager. The models Loki or Loki Wake from Lelo are really good.

-Thirdly about those contractions. Could it be that you have went so big with these toys thinking that that might solve the problem of not being able to orgasm ? It could just be that these big toys leave your butt extremely exhausted. Maybe the solution is not going bigger but stepping back.

-And last, dont put too much pressure on you. Pressuring yourself wont get you anywhere. The most important thing is enjoying the ride, literally. Even if you dont orgasm but still had a good time and it made you feel somewhat good, thats a win. You can still finish yourself of by regular masturbation.

Wow, that really turned out longer than I thought. I hope I was able to help you.

Good luck

 

Hey thanks for response, I personally also have a medium cole, large Austin, and a xl rex(still to big for me but I working on it) and I have a prostate massager. None have worked so far, but I still enjoy toying so I’m in no rush to orgasm. And about the graph perhaps I have had something like that but idk. I’m sure I have many years of toying in my future so I’m sure I’ll get it eventually. Thanks again

 

I can actually reflect that that super well made graph as being mostly accurate. Just the other night I was sitting on my ridley from BD and slowly riding the knot and it was just fantastic. Instead of just a singular orgasm I kept peaking and having "micro orgasms" and emitting semen from my penor every time. Was really nice but sadly isn't always the case. Honestly if Im stretching or going to the max I can't do that, possibly because I'm more focused on trying to go bigger rather than just focusing on stuff like the tempo and pure pleasure.

I have been doing this ears and I have never been able to be completely hands free though, I think I would probably need someone helping me to do that.

I would say just focus on enjoying one of your favorite toys and put on your favorite pornography or fetish content to help keep you motivated. Its really not the same without something to keep me motivated and immersed. And as always use way more lube than you think you need.

 

Thanks for the reply, just hearing other people’s stories helps a lot. Oh and I also love your YouTube channel.

 

For me the feeling of anal orgasm is also very different to penile orgasms. Instead of relieving burst it more feels like very high pressured contractions. It feels extremely good, but very different to an orgasm with ejaculation. I also find it to happen rather with toys that have more girth and put more pressure on the prostate, like flint, than maybe dildo that is more thrusty, supposedly like mystic.

 

i was wondering about that, nice to know i'm not the only one, thanks to all for that thread was quite informative