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Concerning legacy and long term health with toys

Discussion in 'General Toy Discussions and pictures' started by Klaned, Jan 5, 2020.

  1. Klaned

    Klaned Member

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    Hi everyone,

    I would like to share a thought with you about a big fear of mine concerning toys.
    I have been buying BD toys since 2017 and guess what... I dropped them all one day or another (500€ loss maybe).

    I dropped them because I was very afraid of what would happen if my family, for any reason, would find my toys in my house in the case I would pass away. Indeed I guess in such case the family is requested to empty everything where the dead was living.

    Don't you share that fear of having your close people to discover things like "horse dicks" after you leave earth ? That is what made me drop them to garbage for free...

    But still I love those toys even if I am also concerned about possible long term damage to the back side that would bring leakages because of too much "elasticity" in the long run. :/

    I would really appreciate your point of view on these two points :)
     
  2. GreenEmbers

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    I have some concern at times for my mom finding my medium zaratan. So far its the only bd i have. Partly its due to a religious factor. Were not super strict religious or anything. Actually were pretty down to earth. But i personally have a different scriptural opinion about mastrabating than what most do. So i keep it to myself. (I respect others veiws, im not trying to cause religious debates) I know my mom is incredibly uncomfortable with normal dildos, so i assume finding a turtle dick would be even worse. Thankfully she respects my privacy. I just feel that well if its found ill deal with it then. I toy mostly vaginal, but have occasionally tried anal. I dont usually due to the stretching concern...even though some look very appealing. Also colon cancer is prominent in my family so i keep it to a minimum. That and when i have to poo i hold it way too long now. I dont want to lose thar ability.
     
  3. TiberiusWolf

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    I don't really worry about family finding my toys, I suppose I'm lucky in that regard. My parents are fairly old fashioned, but I've always been bluntly honest with them about my life. They've come over and my toys are displayed prominently, and they just casually ignore the growing dick collection as best they can. I've always loved by the policy of being myself loudly and proudly, and usually if you act like something is just completely okay and assume acceptance, people object less because they don't feel they have an invitation to. Anyone who hasn't accepted me, weird kinks included, I've listened to their opinion, thanked them, and let them know I'm going to continue living my life and they are welcome to either not mention it again or walk away.

    As far as long term anal effects go, I don't know. I use toys mostly vaginally and actually just tried toying anally for the first time a few days ago. I appreciate you bringing it up though, that's something I want to research now.
     
  4. Zaphora

    Zaphora Moderator Staff Member

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    Stick to small for anal and save your bigger ones for the v. Actually the vag will go back to its original shape after a while of not using them. Be careful sometimes you will some control over your muscles and pee if you cough too hard (yes it happens) I get made fun of in my house for my dragons...and well I'm now the dragon queen and get ridiculed in my house. XD but yes eventually when I am gonna go i will melt all of mine into a disk and have them buried with me xD
     
  5. Klaned

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    Thank you for your replies!
    Obviously I feel more concerned about long term effects of anal practice because as a man I have no alternative :p

    I think sharing my experience of the effects can be interesting to you. I have always felt attracted to this kind of practice since I was 13 when I started with fingers and various items available to me at the moment... Mostly cosmetics bottles and bananas.

    I remember that there was no consequences at the time and I did not practice very often.
    I began playing with toys in 2017 with a Medium Chance Unflared from Bad Dragon and other random toys from websites.

    I can say after the « learning » period of using this toy I was practicing about 2 times a week. After a few months I felt that I was less tight than before although it wasn’t a big deal.

    I also experienced a more difficult time retaining gas whereas I could hold them longer before I used the toy. It required more concentration and abdominal sheathing during a few seconds in order to hold them inside.

    Then after about 6 months of use I have completely stopped to use them and dropped them off (stupid idea i think...). I felt that everything was getting back to normal concerning retention but when I wanted to play again with another item I also noticed that the stretching happen much faster because the body « remembers » the maximum elasticity of the tissus.

    In other words you cannot get back to previous sense of « tightness » you had before even if visually it seems identical because when you want your anus to stretch bigger than before it « adapts » to it in order not to rupture and this also means you are physically wider in a permanent way (just like an accordion).

    Then I tried a Medium Flared Chanced (hard softness) and I have been to fast because it was very difficult to insert. When it finally did, and after I was done with it, it took long days before I could recover.

    During that period it felt difficult to contract the anus. Not painful at all but still with a lot of « mental strength » it wasnt getting as closed as before. Well after some weeks it got back to normal for that matter but I have definitely lost somes sense of « touch » inside.

    Indeed before rushing that flared chance I could better sense the movement of stools inside when they come out. Now its more imprecise even though I have no leaking or continence issue I may experience these earlier in life than I should have. I think using a flared chance with hard softness is a stupid idea. I should have used a soft of maybe medium one.

    My guess is that using that hard flared chance has led to traumatise the nerves in my rectum that is why I feel less « touch feeling » than before into it. After several months i went to a specialist and he said everything was ok inside, so there is no big damage. But still I can feel those changes.

    I think this bad experience is only due to rushing with that big toy and not the toy itself. Taking a longer time to adapt to it would probably prevent this kind of problem.

    Now I feel like I want to use these toys again with much more care than before. But still I cannot be sure of the long term consequence of using them.

    Well i hope my experience can be helpful to anyone here :)
     
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  6. Naisha

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    @Klaned very helpful indeed! Thanks for sharing it with us.
     
  7. grigori

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    Yeah I do have such a fear that if I eventually die someone will find a huge pile of XL dragon dicks in my closet. But at this point I'm dead already ...:( so no point in stressing over this possibility.

    As of long term health issues, I'm very concerned with a few points that came to my knowledge through studying and researching and I think can contribute to the discussion:

    Long term exposition to and use of J-lube. I'm always trying new lubes and searching for a natural cheap alternative, but so far nothing has came even close to the practicality and effectiveness of J-lube. There are no conclusive studies or enough information out there and there is a possibility to bioaccumulation, cancer, some degree of toxicity etc. This is serious stuff yet is very little discussed in the medium. It is concerning, but I can't add anything without entering into speculation realm.

    Next, the insertion of large objects in the anus will almost always cause small tears in the bowels lining, this may not cause bleeding or pain, but requires your body to heal, to produce new lining cells and this processes, although minimally, do increase the chances of cancer, as in any case, as cell divides there is a small chance of mutation and cancer arising. Still talking about the structure and lining of the lower bowels there are small villi which might get damaged during the insertion, interfering in the natural lubrication and nutrient absorption. Although I personally don't believe nutrient absorption is a huge deal in the last 14 inch of the lower bowels.

    Finally the incontinence concern and tightness issue brought before. I toy with XL bad dragon toys since 2016, and before that I was doing it with other lower quality sex toys or objects for at least another 4 years. So, in total, around 8 years of butt-stuff. In all those years I stopped in a few moments and started again, the processes was always slow and frustrating since I knew that once I could take certain toys, but not anymore. Learning the hard way that the body would still need time to stretch to previous levels, and that I needed to go extra slow.

    That said I've never experienced incontinence or any accident. I do feel that the muscles around the rectum sphincter are stronger than the average person in a sense. I found in rare occasions, that if I eat foods that produces a lot of gas, and laugh too hard or maybe lift some weight at the gym I might let a fart get out. But I've seen it happening with people that don't stretch their buts as well, so nothing out of extraordinary.

    Now outside of the concerning points, I do think there are positives of long term toying. Other than my own well being and satisfaction. I do feel I have a better understating of the sensations in my bowels and an "expanded" gamut of sensations I can experience with my own body. My sexual performance improved, as I could edge for longer. I was able to better separate sexual need from the will and desire of being with someone.
     
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  8. southpupuk

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    Some really interesting points here! I too am a bit of a size queen and have been playing with large toys on and off for years titering on the edge of fisting.
    None of this has been deep play, just thick!

    I had concners over the tightness of my anus and I think that it has become looser over the time, but not to the point that I lose control. Certainly, gas gets out. But I am not sure if its much different to how it was before becasue it was such a long time ago! lol

    My thoughts are that, if something truly terrible happens, then there is now medical interventions, though I would like to avoid a colostomy bag.
    However I dont think it will get that bad, I am at a size now that is pleasnt and I havnt felt the need to go any larger. (large Diego/Med Razor) my issue is now Depth!

    I have, in the past, ditched my toys and clothes in the feeling of i cant do that anymore, only to feel the NEED and use things that I relaly should not have done. So, I will stick with what I have as it's safer in a way, and my O/H is oay with it!

    Enjoy life now, you never know when its going to kick you in the head!
     
  9. Kaiyodei

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    oh yes. only, i can't take anything huge so it's going to be less of a "oh my god. did we know her at all?"
     
  10. wongpi

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    I've somehow amassed far more toys than I can feasibly use, and I also have the same fear that I'll die and my parents will find my toy stash and be ashamed. I'll be dead, so what does it matter? But it still eats at a part of me to think about putting them through finding out their child is a kinky fiend after death, lol.

    I don't use toys anally, so I don't have the same fears in using odd and larger toys since the vagina can heal a lot easier. The only worry I have in that regard is being too reckless and hurting myself in the process. I haven't reached the point where I was so vigorous with a toy that I ended up sore and hurting for days afterwards, and I'm not eager to experience that.
     
  11. Zaphora

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    Well its entirely up to you to decide what to do with your items. You can sell them when you feel it's time or give them away its all up to you. I would have my stuff given to someone i trust...plan ahead just in case.
     
  12. wongpi

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    Yeah, it's why I'm selling so many of my toys now. I'm a bit too attached to give up fantasy toys completely, so downsizing would just be a better idea, lol.
     

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