Hokay, am I'm being stupid about this or does this just not add up? Emma, girl I've known since 8th grade that I started dating back in November, has suddenly decided she's not in shape for a relationship. She sent me this back on the 22nd:
Her: I can't do this anymore.
Me: Do what?
Her: I can't do this. You and me, I can't.
Me: ...what?
Her: I'm sorry, I don't have enough time to devote to a relationship. Obviously because we barely talk. Much less one where the person I'm seeing is in another state.
Me: ...you're end this because of your work, despite us working around that pretty well and that being a non-issue, at least on my end because we click really well. And over text nonetheless. I don't even know what to say.
Her "we barely talk" bit isn't actually the case, we tend to talk almost every night for at least an hour, but the few days before that she was getting over being sick and quitting smoking and I had caught yet another fucking illness and so we kinda had a dip in talking. So anyways, the day after this she gets in a wreck and totals her car, ends up with some bruising and she's pretty sure a concussion but otherwise she's okay, and after dodging my texts in response the night before looking for an explanation she decided to send me pictures of her car. I initially took this the wrong way, then she explained that she just wanted to let me know and I told I'd be around if she wanted to talk, and then decided to change my mind and sent a poorly worded text that made it seem like I was too pissed about what was going on between us to care about her well being (which I wasn't pissed at all, just more or less lost.) This of course gets a "fuck you" from her, but at least somewhat opened the door for conversation after I apologized, and we talked for a little bit but not about what was going on between us, instead she kinda forced the conversation to be like normal. And then we talked the night after that again for a lengthy period where she was just venting in general and was making it clear that because everything was falling on her at once (trying to get into Wake Tech, having to find a new car, having to add collision to her insurance, having to take care of the ticket she got from the crash, etc.) and so I told her that in regards to me and her it was just a simple matter of if she wants to be with me or not, that I could take care of us as long as she took care of herself, and she told me she loved me and all of that and it seemed like everything had been smoothed over, especially since the next couple nights everything was back to normal.
Nope, got this from her earlier today:
"I'm still standing by what I said. I'm just not in a good position for a relationship atm. I mean, no matter what we talked about that unfortunately doesn't change the shape I'm in."
Now, for some context, because of how long me and her have known each other we've kinda flown through the swing of things and have talked about shit like where we wanted to live, what type of furniture we wanted in our house and possible kid names, you know, long-term type shit, and she had told me she was in love with me not even a week prior to her suddenly deciding she couldn't do this. And I don't buy her reasoning, it just doesn't fit, and I've tried getting her to talk to me about what's actually going on, what's actually bothering her to no avail, so I'm kinda lost as to what I do. I really want her and I was planning on moving back up there by fall of this year, but at the same time with her reasoning it seems like she's trying to imply that our relationship has had a negative impact on her and that I should be moving on, which is just ridiculous to me because she's the one who initiated this, she's the one who came out of nowhere and let me know about her feelings for me and stole a kiss from me and started this whole fucking thing. Ugh, what do I doooooooo.
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