Well, we talked. I don't think its going to work out, so I'm most likely going to break it off soon.
Our whole conversation today was about things that we differ on. Not necessarily interests (which we differ on a lot), but more views on relationships. I brought up the fact that she mentioned she was uncomfortable with sex, and that she'd rather get to know the person before anything like that happened. Which I agree with, I think, even in a FwBs relationship you should get to know the person first. I also mentioned that sex is how I show my feelings for someone, as strange as that is. Its really the only time I can show romantic interest in the other person, to show how much they really mean to me. But I think she took that as me trying to force or push her into having sex with me, which is absolutely not true. She said she wouldn't mind me having sex with others as we're just "casual", in her words, right now, but once and IF we start dating, that she wouldn't be ok with that. I agree on that as well, but I don't think its fair for one person to have to give up something they enjoy just because the other person isn't comfortable or doesn't like it. A relationship isn't about sacrifices, its not a 50/50 thing. Its about compromising to find ways that both parties in the relationship can agree with. At least that's my view of a relationship.
I think that's the major issue we'd have. Other than that, we just have vastly different interests and hobbies. She likes anime and cartoons, I like crime dramas and documentaries. Her hobbies consist of cosplaying (which she asked me to participate in, but I feel like I'd just be an accessory), my hobby is cars and skydiving. She's very shy, reserved, and stingy at times. I'm a sarcastic asshat who likes to tease and joke. Add the fact that she can't seem to hold a conversation. I really can't find any similarities between the two of us. Honestly now that I think about it, I'm not sure what attracted me to her in the first place beside her smile.
Last edited: Jun 23, 2016