of recent months to past year ive been swinging around more than usual. my lowest points usually span a day's worth, morning to night. they happen mostly when there is some sort of upsetting event that doesn't even directly affect me.
ill go back in time a ways. there are many more cases in my history though.
all through early to mid teen years, i was bullied from mental to physical and back. once, it got bad enough, the school did nothing, so me and my mother phoned the police. that was the 7th grade, and for the most of 8th nobody messed with me (the cop that attended to my case was one that i knew through my mother's job as a karate teacher). skip on to junior and senior year, i moved to a technical school. best choice ever. unfortunately... there were new bullies for me to deal with.
one stole small items from me. the one that bothered me most is that she took the single pencil i use to draw, the same one i have had for many years. after a couple of days i manage to steal it back. on the way to lunch, she found then started to attack me, while i just kept walking. this story of an argument of a pink pencil went all through the school. she and everyone else thought it was hilarious; but as an artist that has an extremely picky hand (it is literally the only one that feels perfectly balanced. being a bic mini with pencil-top eraser) and that it is the pencil i have had for the past ~5 years, seen one through death and trauma, seen thousands of drawings, you get attached to the most unbecoming of items.
that matter passes. this goes into the mental abuse.
there was one boy in my class. he was one of those holier-than-thou Christians that shoved religion down other's throats. the boy hated me because i openly say i am pan/atheist and always undermine his speeches against my being. so he decides to mount the emotional attacks.
there is one class that i often drew on the whiteboard where there was nothing to do in the class. one day i decided to draw Ra, naturally i write his name with the drawing. he decided it must have been a day to pick on me, and he really hit hard. i don't remember all of it, but he questioned why i draw, which is for fun as much as it is for myself and my mental health (what scraps were left). at that he went to say that i should just stop drawing. if there is anything you never, ever tell someone who just said that they draw for mental health, it is to stop. if i had it in me to charge and beat the living slag out of him, i would have. at one point we tried to claim that Ra's name was a terroristic threat. (really?) the whole time, i know the teacher was watching. i managed to keep a curt smile and in one piece, but telling me to stop drawing is like telling a bird to stop flying. you are telling to stop doing what is their livelihood.
the years and years of the harm gave me a shell, thick skin, and the want to do nothing but become solitary. i couldn't trust because i was double-crossed and backstabbed. it was hard to get me to talk or go places. boyfriends came and went, i made mistakes of letting me throw myself wholeheartedly into relationships that were to soon wither and die.
of recent ive had a boatload of stress thrown on my shoulders since i graduated from school. i need a job. i need to earn money. i need to move out. i need to do taxes (although i don't think i am required to because i made < 3,500). all this was thrown onto me. in school they taught you none of that, nothing of what to look for and what to avoid in renting and buying an apartment or house, how to fill out your taxes, or where you can look for entry-level jobs that don't require a college degree (that isn't a gas station). school doesnt really teach you anything worth knowing. i dont remember a lick of statistics.
of the past many months i have had a boyfriend. his being in the Navy is great, and i am proud of him. but it is a wreck on us and our relationship. several times we planned to meet, all of those times his job stopped us. a few weeks ago he disappeared without a single word and not been back since. its making me worried and anxious beyond belief, i don't know what is happening and and i cannot reach out to him when i need help in the middle of the night like i used to be able to in the earlier months. in those months with him i came out from my shell and became more trusting. i let my weirder side show, to find he embraced that. once i trusted him more... i once again throw myself wholeheartedly into this. and this time, i am not giving up... but dangit does this unknowing hurt. it was one thing when he was shipped out, i at least knew why he wouldnt be around... this, i don't. at all. every day i hope to see him come back. and every day i am disappointed that i hoped for it.
lately i seem to be suffering more of these attacks, mild to extreme. some days i dont want to get out of bed. oh, how much i want to call it depression. i want to say i have a problem. but i dont. i dont want to say i have a problem because people will give me attention that i view as unjust, that i will get attention for something i have carried myself through for many years. that people i want to work for will drop me because i am seen as unfit, unstable. also because i will have to take medication, and that is something i hate to do because i have a self-imposed ban on drugs.
i dont know what to do. i dont have a job, i am almost 19 and living at home. i hate attention for problems, i want to be the only one treating me. i am rife with inability to reward myself often as i should, prone to days or even weeks where i just don't want to do anything and have minimal physical interaction. most of all i constantly disappoint myself in hoping to see a boyfriend that might not even be 'home', and feel helpless in trying to contact him.
i broke the turkey's wishbone... i hope it works. i shouldnt, but i do.
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