Started out with porn when I was 12, for whatever reason, as soon as I had figured out how easy it was to find pictures, I was looking for big cocks. I was curious and had no intentions or desires other than to look at them. Fast forward 10 years or so and I've been dating girls for about 5 years. In that time I'd had two relationships that were painful and costly and I was still stuck in the second one, even though she was now 18 hours away at school.
So I had a lot of time to myself, and the big cocks were still my favourite porn element. I had even moved forward a little to watching some actual gay porn instead of just looking at pictures or straight porn. I was reading some smut here and there and just sort of skimming over the actual gay stuff. I was interested in cocks, nothing else. I joined furaffinity in 2012, as I had started to find that furry artists were the BEST at big cocks and had even invented universal terms for different sizes. Enter the story Geno-type.
Geno-type is a story about a couple of highschoolers who start experiencing cock growth of epic proportions. It caught my eye because the characters are humans. They fall in love. I came for the cocks and suddenly I'm reading about a pair of lovers. I am reading about standing up for each other in front of bullies. I am reading about coming out to each others' parents. I am suddenly, for the first time, really engaging the concept of gay romance, gay intimacy, and the gay lifestyle. And I am struck by how natural it feels. I am blown away by what I have been missing all these years. The little snippets of gay porn I'd exposed myself to were entirely devoid of the stuff this story was made of. I am suddenly, unabashedly, okay with gay romance.
And worse, I'm suddenly wanting it. Suddenly, boys I thought were cute pop back into my head after being instantly buried over the last 10 years. I am suddenly ashamed to have hidden from a part of myself for a decade. I am suddenly mourning the 10 years of life I could have lived in the full scope of my personality. I am suddenly profoundly aware that pandora's box is open and the only thing that came out was half of my sexual and romantic identity.
I befriended the author and spent a lot of time talking in the community. I started with terms and phrases like "...not the straightest of guys..." and was quickly working my way up to "bisexual." I spent a lot of time figuring out what I wanted, and came out to my best friend. I dreaded what she and I both agreed was best. I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 3 years, under the legitimate pretense that our schooling was only going to keep us apart the next few years and we hadn't been happy in a long time. Soon we got to talking and I broke down in tears, telling her the truth. Things between us would be complicated for a while. She came to visit me and we had sex we shouldn't have had. There was a lot of crying and many hours of phone calls. She helped me find LGBT forums to help me sort things out. She swapped back and forth between telling me she couldn't talk to me any more and calling me to talk about boys who were giving her the runaround. I did everything in my power to be a better friend than I was a boyfriend. In the end, we're still friends, two years later. We don't talk as often but that's because she's engaged and working a career-type job.
I organized a few dates and started going out to see guys. There were four dates in a week and literally every experience I have had with men took place then. I made physical advances that were unimaginably braver than anything I'd done with girls.
-I left my family in a nearby city to meet up with one prospect I met online, and with him I had a dinner date, my first physical contact with a guy, my first kiss, and even my first blowjob (HUGE COCK, dream come true).
-I got addresses and a phone number and job title and gave them to a friend for safe keeping, before taking trains and buses out of town for a night-and-morning with a guy almost twice my age (bodybuilder, hung, dream come doubly true).
-I bumped into an old friend-of-a-friend on facebook and discovered him to be bot gay and HOT, I spent an evening with him in his bed, watching movies, telling stories, laughing, kissing, and learning how much in the moment, chemistry overpowers the importance of compatibility (way out of my league and also a big stoner, ew).
-I set up a museum date with a nerd, and we spent the whole couple hours just ranting and gushing together about latin, flora and fauna, gems, rocks, and ecology. In the end he got so horny we left early and I gave him (with his deep fears about premature ejaculation) the longest and most edgingly-fantastic blowjob he'd ever had in his life. His was the first foreskin I'd ever seen and I spent hours of our weekend together mastering it. That nerd would go on to be my boyfriend after a few more dates.
When the dates were done, I came out to my mom, who was fine with it and cautioned me about going on dates with strangers. I came out to my friends, all of whom more or less replied "I could have told you that." I came out to my dad who was awkward bu accepting. I came out to the girl I had been in love with for years who, true to her wonderful nature, was extremely excited and proud of me. I came out to strangers. I came out to teachers. I came out to coworkers, employers, and anyone who needed to know. That's the thing they don't tell you about coming out, it's not a singular act, it's something you do constantly, whenever you need to. Customers at my job know I have a boyfriend. My bus driver in my home town knows I have a boyfriend. It's a miracle that I live in Canada where I have yet to see a single negative reaction in two years of outing myself.
Never mind the fact that I'm bi and have to remind people that it's different from gay. That's another matter.
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