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  1. Misskin

    Misskin http://www.furaffinity.net/user/misskin/

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    I brought this over from the old world just because it seemed to bring people together and shared some really inspirational stories.

    I think I was really young maybe somewhere around 9 when I first watched the movie Who Framed Roger Rabbit and the infamous Jessica Rabbit scene.
    The VHS we had it on should have burst into flames from how many times I rewatched it. All I remember is "feeling funny/tingly" when the lady in the red dress was on screen. Back then I didn't know anything about sex type stuff, but I did know that I wanted to touch the red lady all over and pretty much be her pet XD

    Transexuals, and all other likes of mine just sprang from experiences with anime and niche porn. Basically, if you're attractive (regaurdless of body type), you've got me xD
     
  2. MurphyAlter

    MurphyAlter The Floofiest

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    Like I said on the last forum, I never had any sort of indicator or occasion where my sexuality sort of developed. I kinda grew up liking anime porn, and with anime porn, finding stuff where the guys aren't totally unattractive can sometimes be a hassle... so I guess I managed to develop a "taste" for guys. But I never had a realization like "oh man, this is gay" or anything, I just always sort of liked both, and when I saw stuff that was two attractive guys, I'm like "aw sweet they're both hot, awesome!"
     
  3. RyokoOno

    RyokoOno Active Member

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    I am still struggling with my sexuality. I have never loved a man, I have obsessed over two women, three if you oount the one who bullied me and I had a rage boner for for a year until she left for Belize.

    I guess I identify as homoflexible. I really love women. I have since I started puberty at eight and saw other girls developing faster than me. Pretty women, very feminine looking with body. Between size 8 and 18 with booty and breasts and great personalities and intelligence. Men are more available though, I just don't like sex with them. It has always been disappointing and I feel disgusting afterwards.

    I always identified as one of the guys. I was always more a son to my father than a daughter and a brother than a sister to my older brother. I was raised like a boy, and I have many very male thoughts.

    During my preteen and highschool tears I also suffered through gender dismorphism. I felt like I had a penis. I felt it get erect at innapropriate times and I was able to jack this invisible appendage off and get off without touching anything else.

    My sex end came from porn my dad left out while drunk when I was eight. That's when I started masturbating. I had a very vivid imagination, but had no idea what a penis looked like. I had very vivid full sensory dreams of sex with faceless humanoids, frightening demons and phantoms.

    After I had sex though, and every time after, I hated it. I only kept trying because I was very angry at myself and others and wanted to feel something other than that it was also the only way I felt anyone wanted to be close to me. I was and still am frightened of making relationships with women after how the first woman I fell for treated me for ten years.

    I don't know. I think I am just weird. I might be destined to be alone and search out mating partners for when I want to have children that I won't know more than the first name of.

    I feel sad.
     
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  4. Emmy

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    I grew up in a very liberal household and learned about sex and sexuality in an open environment with peers my same age (I went to a very informative sex-ed program called Our Whole Lives/OWL in 5th, 7th and 11th grade) and my own sexuality was never really anything I concerned myself with. Whatever I ended up being, it was fine with me and fine with everyone I knew. Most of my life I liked guys, but I had various crushes on girls too for a long time. I only really figured it out around mid-10th grade when I started dating this really cute girl I knew. I'm actually really surprised I didn't know sooner, looking back XD
     
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  5. Hybrid88

    Hybrid88 Underwear Bulge Lover

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    I pretty much knew since I hit puberty. I tried telling myself it will pass or it's just a phase but over a decade later it never did. I finally came to terms with who I really am and came out to my family. I'm glad I did. It felt like a huge weight being lifted off my chest. I don't have to live with the fear of someone finding out my secret I had kept hidden for so long.
     
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  6. Misskin

    Misskin http://www.furaffinity.net/user/misskin/

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    Nuuu D: *rubs back*
     
  7. RyokoOno

    RyokoOno Active Member

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    I want children one day.
    I want to know what it's like to be needed and wanted on the level I have been able to feel for certain people.
    I want to feel love for someone.
    I want a meaningful, romantic and passionate relationship with someone.
    I am sexually and romantically attracted to wem, to the point of obsession.
    I am platonically attracted to men. I just want hugs, cuddles, and massages from them. Some sadomasochistic kink too, but no sex.
     
  8. Mcsnuffles

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    Sorry for the wall of text, but this new forum has motivated me to be active and express some things that I've never really talked about.

    My bisexualness didn't really start manifesting itself until my mid 20's. Attraction to guys both sexually and romantically never really crossed my mind for a large portion of my life until around 23-24 when I began to experiment by myself with anal. It felt good and I enjoyed it. This lead me to thinking about what it would be like to be a bottom, because sexual acts are almost always better with another person. I had thought about finding a girl who'd be willing to use a strap-on but that seemed like a tough task and I figured why not go for the real thing. This also got me thinking about giving a blowjob, and I started to fantasize about that as well. But I didn't really feel comfortable going that whole craigslist route and I didn't have anyone in my life that I felt comfortable discussing this with or anyone that I thought would be interested in experimenting.

    Well, lucky me, it just so happens that an opportunity presented itself. I was probably 24-25 at the time and I went to a friends birthday party at a bar. I was drinking and having a good time, and eventually ended up chatting with this guy that I knew was gay. Somehow we got to talking about his nipple rings, which planted the thought in my head that I'd enjoy sucking and playing with those. Well, as the night began to wind down, a group of us went over to this guy's apartment and continued to drink a bit and smoke a bit (I was still pretty new to the whole weed scene at the time) while watching a movie. Eventually people began to leave and it was just me and this guy left, so we threw in another movie and sat down on the couch together. Partway through the movie, with most of my inhibitions gone due to the alcohol and weed, I turned to him and took off his shirt so I could suck on his nipple rings. Then eventually opened up his pants, and so began my first venture into bisexuality. I gave a blowjob and bottomed for him, and from what I remember of the night, I definitely enjoyed it. Unfortunately, afterwards I had that feeling of confusion and unsureness about what just happened. Not disgust or regret, just a need to decompress what just happened. And in my confusion, I made no attempt to get contact information from him so that we could try it again. And our mutual friends are people that I rarely have contact with, so I never saw him again. Well, that's a lie, a number of years later, he was the waiter at a family dinner, and I still am not sure if he recognized me.

    This episode really planted the seed for my bisexuality, and desire to experiment. Since then I have utilized the ever dangerous craigslist method of hooking up. Given a few blowjobs and bottomed a few times. There was a really nice gay couple that I met that were a great time, but they ended moving out of town before we could get together a second time, which is a shame because one of the guys had a really nice big cock, and I didn't let him top me because I was still pretty new at it.

    Shortly after all of this began, my anal experimentation really began to take off and I ventured into the realm of crossdressing in my room. I really enjoyed the feeling it gave me. I got to feel sexy and desirable, which is something I don't feel too often as a guy. I've always been a submissive person, and the crossdressing ended being a way to help me embrace that, and I'm well aware of the sexist stereotypes this perpetrates. I think the crossdressing also helped me reconcile my feelings of wanting to fool around with guys in some way.

    Well, here I am now a few after all of this has occurred, and I'm living by msyelf in a foreign country away from my old friends and in a situation where finding a hookup is extremely difficult, but crossdressing and toying is very easy (pros of living alone). So I have begun to embrace those things while I am still single. I began buying a few BD toys and have developed quite a collection of clothes. But when all is said and done, I'm still mostly straight. I have no desire to have a relationship with a guy, but sexually I'm very open and willing to enjoy myself with anyone.
     
  9. Misskin

    Misskin http://www.furaffinity.net/user/misskin/

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    That my friend was a very good read. I can only hope that my first real experience with another girl is as memorable
     
  10. Mcsnuffles

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    I would hope it's more memorable considering the cocktail of booze and weed that was involved, my memories are pretty fuzzy.
     
  11. RyokoOno

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    I wish I could find a pretty girl that would want me back.
     
  12. Blinding

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    I consider myself bi-curious, but I really don't have any sort of attraction to men in general, rather I just enjoy cock. o_o It was a realization that came slowly over time, I don't think it was just like one day I woke up and went "holy fuck I like dick," though that would be amusing. Of course that puts me in a predicament because I'd obviously love to experiment and see if it's more then just something that seems appealing, but I'm one of those people who doesn't quite find sex (or sexual activities) enjoyable unless I'm romantically attracted to them.
     
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    When my adoptive parents raised me as a girl, I was into other girls.

    Was a shut-in for around ten years, 'cause who'd ever want a whatsit like *me?*

    Well. Lots of people, it turned out. When I moved to a big city where nobody knew who I was "supposed" to be, and went with what felt natural (adding a prosthetic dick to my own), suddenly dicks looked pretty awesome! And I found out: so did guys I'd meet who weren't born with dicks! And so did gals in my usual fetish items, suits and glasses! I'm continually bowled over by how many folks have confessed to having crushes on me, once I tinkered out who I *was.*

    Most of who I find attractive aren't human, though. Never have been. I still fap mainly to them, and I don't think that'll ever change. Aliens, monsters, the Final Boss (spoiler!) in "Wreck-It Ralph"... Haaawwwt.

    Started sucking dick at 25, after what seemed like forever getting to know myself enough to give a damn about taking care of myself and venturing into giving socialization a shot. Ran into my current partner of 8 years at a diner after a Valentine's Day Craigslist blowjob-taker flaked out on me. Was as simple as "he was in the booth next to me and we noticed/recognized the comic books we were each reading (and we hung around and geeked out for hours after I'd blow him)." And now I've found having penetrative sex and sharing a bed together afterwards can be pretty awesome as well.

    Big ol' world out there. Even for a queermeleon chinchilla like me. I wonder what I'll find out next.
     
  14. blackpaw

    blackpaw Silky smooth paws for sale

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    For a very long time I've identified as a furry which has allowed me to explore my sexuality in a freer way. In real life, I consider myself heterosexual but I enjoy looking at nice dicks (silicone or otherwise). As a furry I'm all over the fucking place (definite pun there :D). So I don't know necessarily what I am, but that I am now more comfortable than I ever was before about my sexuality. I wish I had better experiences as a child and wasn't shamed by people for identifying with animals (wolves in particular), but I can't change the past. I can only move forward and ignore the haters.

    Yet one more reason I love this community!
     
  15. Dracoa

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    I've always been straight with zero sexual attraction to men. Though even lately that's waned to basically no sexual attraction at all. With physical stimulation, or the very near prospect of it, from a woman I can be aroused and even orgasm, but it doesn't leave me satisfied, kinda like masturbation. Maybe I'm just broken, as this is a very recent thing, like within the last month. I don't know. Just hugs, cuddles, massage, and I'm good. If sex happens, it happens, and it's for her benefit, not mine. Maybe it's because the emotional wounds are too deep that it causes physical issues.
     
  16. MurphyAlter

    MurphyAlter The Floofiest

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    I'm the exact same way. I LOVE cock, but it has to be on someone I find personally attractive... basically, super feminine guys. Of course, for furry stuff, I can go as far as bara, so I can appreciate the cock just about anywhere with furry porn.
     
  17. DameKathryn

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    @Blinding @MurphyAlter That's about how Kranix feels and he seems to label himself as Heteroflexible.
     
  18. MurphyAlter

    MurphyAlter The Floofiest

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    Maybe, but I like how Bi sounds better, and I AM willing to take a dick, and actually pretty eager. I just don't find most guys attractive.
     
  19. Mcsnuffles

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    I know the feeling, I am attracted to beautiful cocks and well sculpted male bodes, but in general I just don't find guys attractive. But I definitely love sucking and bottoming.
     
  20. Snærhjarta

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    Like I said before, I fuck who I choose and I mostly care about attraction, not sex. When I was 12 I had figured out I was not heterosexual.
     
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