Firstly I am a male, so when I say "safely" I'm worried more about blowing out my asshole than I am about damaging the toy in this thread. (I have read BD's Toy Caresheet so I don't expect issues there.) Secondly, I haven't actually been penetrated by anything larger than my fingers or a toothbrush, so I'm a novice at toying with my ass and I'm about as afraid of damage as I am eager to try it out. Thirdly, I don't know how often I'll be using it, I might want days or weeks between each use while I'm still learning, I might turn into an anal slut if I fall in love with it, your guess is as good as mine. Here's what I think I know so far: soft firmness, small size toys are probably the least likely to do any permanent or hospital worthy damage, although I know even small BD toys are still on the larger side for objects to go inside ones anus. I'm thinking of ordering a small & soft Tucker when custom orders open up again, and since that has a knot I know I need to be especially careful with it, and that an abundance of lube is the way to go. Does anyone have any other tips to keep my rear in one piece and outside of a hospital/injury? Also, does anyone have any insight on if the rumors/risks of permanent anal stretching and leaking are true? As eager as I am to sit on something like small Tucker or an Austin, I don't really like the idea of ruining my anus for good since I can't just get a new one of those from BD. I'm new here & to this sort of thing so forgive my rookie education on this stuff.