Disclaimer: - I am not a doctor, if you're having a medical problem you should go to a doctor. I will give as much information as I can but I am not a medical professional and cannot see you so I cannot and will not diagnose you. - Bullying will not be tolerated. Telling people they should feel bad about their amount of sexual experience or making any sort of rape joke is not ok. Neither is any sort of disrespect to trans or intersex people and it will not be tolerated. If you have something hateful to say, keep it to yourself. This means referring to people by the pronouns they request to be referred by. For more information on pronouns see here. - If you have additional information or resources you would like to be included or information on changes that need to be made to the information presented please PM me and I will do it as soon as possible! Purpose: I have noticed that lots of people on the forums never seemed to have gotten good basic sex education classes. I'm here to try and fix that as much as possible! Sex, Gender (identity, expression, and role), and Orientation: A person's sex, gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation are all different. Sex: this is a person's physical body as related to secondary sex characteristics (link is cisnormative). Secondary sex characteristics are those that develop during puberty (such as breasts or body hair). A person's sex can be normatively male, female, in transition between the two, or intersex. Note: while trasitioning trans people might have mixed secondary sex characteristics they are, by and large, not considered intersex. Intersex generally refers to mixed sex characteristics as a result of birth rather than by outside instigated change (such as surgery or hormones). Gender Identity: This is what a person identifies themselves as. It can be male, female, genderqueer, gender-fluid, third gender, no gender, multi-gender or anything else under the sun. (see here for a more complete list of identities.) A person's gender identity is completely separate from a person's sex, gender role, gender expression, and sexual orientation. Note: if a person's sex "matches" with their gender identity they are called cisgendered/cissexual/cis. If a person's sex and gender do not match up they fall under the trans umbrella. Gender Expression: A person's gender expression is how they express their gender to the outside world. This is generally viewed through the gender-binary lens and is generally described as more or less masculine or feminine. This has nothing to do with a person's sex, gender identity, or sexual orientation. A straight, male-identified person can wear a dress if he wants. Though often time trans people use their gender expression to present as conventionally "masculine" or "feminine" as possible in order to assert their gender identity to the outside world and to keep themselves safe. This can be through things like clothes and hair but also through language, posture and emotional expression. Gender Role: This is the gendered role that a person plays as defined by society. This is generally a binary role: such as male=masculine= breadwinner of family, aggressive, non-emotional or female=feminine= emotional, delicate, submissive. A person can mix gender roles freely and can take on either stereotypical gender role independent of their sex, identity, or orientation. Note about gender role and expression: These two are interconnected because the role you take often interconnects with other aspects of your expression though many people consider them separate things. Sexual Orientation: This is what a person is sexually attracted to. Sexual orientations are massive and varied and the most common of them are straight (liking people of the opposite gender, cis-ness generally implied), gay/lesbian (liking people of the same gender,cis-ness implied), bisexual (liking people of both genders, gender binary and cis-ness implied), pan/omnisexual (liking people of any sex and any gender), asexual (no sexual attraction to anybody, regardless of sex or gender). A more complete list of orientations and their definitions can be found here. Note: Sexual attraction and romantic attraction are also not tied together. It is perfectly possible to be male and be sexually attracted to both cisgendered male and female persons but only be romantically attracted to cis female persons. Or to be romantically attracted to female people but only sexually attracted to men. Note 2: The kind of sexual pleasure you like to receive does not indicate your sexual orientation. It is perfectly acceptable for straight men to enjoy anal penetration or for gay men to detest anal sex. Note 3: Your sex drive also doesn't indicate your sexuality. Gay people can not want to have penetrative sex and Asexual people can masturbate. Sexual orientation is about sexual attraction rather than sex drive and the will to have sex. Anatomy: Female Anatomy: If you have a question about a person who, regardless of identity or expression, has fully functioning female anatomy that has not been altered through hormones or surgery, please visit here for more information. Disclaimer: even though the source alludes to the fact that all female persons are born with female anatomy this is not true. Anybody of any gender identity or expression can have female reproductive organs. If you want information on the changes undergone by a person during hormone replacement therapy for someone transitioning from female to male please see here. Male Anatomy: If you have a question about a person who, regardless of identity or expression, has fully functioning male anatomy that has not been altered through hormones or surgery, please visit here for more information. Disclaimer: even though the source alludes to the fact that all male persons are born with male anatomy this is not true. Anybody of any gender identity or expression can have male reproductive organs. If you want information on the changes undergone by a person during hormone replacement therapy for someone transitioning from male to female please see here. Intersex: People of any gender identity or expression can be intersex. The old term, which is now widely regarded as offensive, was hermaphrodite. Please do not use this term. For more information about intersex people and what makes a person intersex please visit here.